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Moving House (Part 1) – Life Lessons #5

Moving House (Part 1) – Life Lessons #5

Welcome back to the Life Lessons series, previous articles have included, what learning to ski teaches you about life and simple wisdom from a genuine Italian mamma

This edition of Life Lessons focuses on that hotly tipped contender for the ‘top 5 most stressful things you can do’: Moving House.  So what can it teach us and how do we do it in a stress free way?  This 2 parter shares some wisdom on that… But first a little context.

I am no stranger to the house move hullabaloo, having hopped from one abode to the next 30 times in 20 years.  Safely ensconced in one home from 0-18 years old, I then spent the following 18+ years making up for lost time, shifting scenery, keys and household routines an average of once every 9 months. No, I was not on the run, under witness protection or constantly evicted for unsociably bad behaviour. I just like change, seek adventure and am enthused by ‘the new’ and all of these moves have helped keep things fresh but now, I gotta say, I would like to stop moving so much. So before the moving stops (this may be the last move for a while) I thought I would share with you some useful lessons. Here is part 1…

1)   Things will get broken/lost/left behind.
This move I unpacked a favourite tea pot, only to find the lid smashed into pieces, my other half has spent the last three days rummaging through boxes looking for the long lost mint plant and we have no idea what happened to one of our favourite t-shirts but if the new owners of our old house find it, we encourage them to enjoy it’s ‘one size fits all’ wonder.

In the stress of moving house, these small things can seem larger than life and twice as heartbreaking as they would on a ‘normal’ (whatever that is) day. It’s worth remembering in these moments that they are just things, objects, inanimate pieces of material and not bodily appendages or in any way personality defining. You will be lighter (see point 2) without them, once you recover from their loss/damage, and will have learnt a little about how you deal with the transient nature of possession, and by extension the transient nature of everything.

2)   Emptying out makes space.
Moving (a lot) is a great lesson in how to throw things away/take them to the charity shop/gift them to a friend.  If you haven’t used something since you moved in to the place you are now moving out of, ditch it.  If its broken, fix it before you move. If its no longer your taste, pass it on. Get clutter clearing into your mentality.  It means less boxes to lug and helps in the same way point 1 helps with detachment. It has been practiced for years by wiser generations than this one. Moreover, it really gets you to reflect on what you really need in life and whether you are being driven by a need to ‘possess’.

3)   Put the box down and play with the hula hoop
Raised with a strong work ethic, the blood of my ‘early to rise, work hard all day, don’t rest till it’s done’ farming ancestors runs rich through my veins. Thankfully, whilst my partner in crime is also a hard worker (much more methodical and practical than me though thank goodness), he has a strong sense of fun to balance him out. So when he starts putting all of his hats on my head and my hula hoop around his waist, I resist the urge to yell ‘stop f*cking about’ and join in his impromptu clowning session. Why? Because play is important.  It brings you back to the moment, it sooths the furrowed brow, reduces raised blood pressure AND it makes you more productive afterwards.

And on that cheerful note… thanks for reading 🙂

Join me for part 2 when we get all serious again..

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